It is a known fact that I do not watch a lot of TV. A quarter of the reason is because I don’t have the time and 3/4 is due to the fact that the people who live in this home are TV pigs. I can’t seem to get close enough to the Ark of the Covenant…ever.
However, there are a couple shows I do watch. One of these shows is America’s Next Top Model. My daughter and I usually prop ourselves up on the couch and watch Tyra demonstrate how to smize. I quit trying the technique after several attempts and my daughter’s request to “please stop.” Apparently the smize was not my look and made me appear like an insane asylum escapee. My baby however, can strike a pose. Although this is not what the post is about, here are some shots of her from a few years ago:
Affirmative, I quit smizing. Whatever. Anyhow, something bothered me on Wednesday’s episode. Did you see the episode?
During a time of “getting to know each other” Ondre, the young lady from Michigan, shared of the recent death of her two brothers with a few of the girls. She was calm and collected as she told of their passing and later informed the camera that although she was sad, she wanted to take the opportunity presented to her. Ondre further went on to say that this was something she was going to do for her brothers…in memory and honor of them because it was an opportunity that they would never get to experience. She appeared focused in her approach and seemed to have the issue settled in her mind. She was the picture of quiet resolve.
During the time of soul sharing a couple of the girls expressed that they did not understand how she was able to participate in the show. These girls (Note: Competitors) felt as if the grief would be too raw and they did not think that it would be something they could endure. She listened quietly and digested their words.
At the next photo shoot we witnessed a once determined, focused Ondre crack and break down to the point of withdrawal from the show. During the next judging panel she informed the judges of her decision to leave. The judges accepted her withdrawal and instructed the contestants that if Ondre’s photo was the worst photo that week then no one would be eliminated but if it wasn’t then one of the current women would have to leave. You could see the “Oh darn, we were hoping to capitalize on her grief” spread across some of the faces.
The entire scenario really bothered me. Her elimination seemed too easy. So WHAT happened?
Ondre allowed the enemy access into her head where seeds could be planted. These seeds seemed like innocent observations or sympathetic remarks but they actually contained poison. Ondre gave the remarks her attention and allowed them to grow to the point of behavioral modification.
I have witnessed this form of attack many times during my life and have even fallen prey myself. Sometimes the individual delivering the “message” is an innocent instrument willingly used as a mouth piece for discouragement (or whatever) and at other times they are packing motive, fully aware of their actions.
Once spoken we have a choice of what to do with the words. We can either come into agreement with the message and allow it to take up space in our psyche and ultimately alter our behavior OR we can recognize the assault and cerebrally shred the contaminated message…access denied!!!
We may have to repeat the process and kick the words to the shredder several times because they will often attempt to apply for residence more than once. This practice becomes more difficult if we really want to agree with the message and modify our behavior. For example, if stuck in a less than desirable, despised job that is necessary for a season, it would be all too tempting to embrace a message of premature evacuation! With prematurity comes unanswered questions.
Would Ondre get best photo? How far would Ondre make it? Could she be America’s Next Top Model? We’ll never know but we do know that her photo was “not the worst” and had she not withdrawn, she would still be a contestant.
I realize I cannot evacuate these comments without a lot of prayer and wisdom. Because truly, most people can bring us down but there is One whose desire is to lift us higher.
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother Proverbs 18:24
When life is screaming The Worst at us we need to remember that, like Ondre, we are still in the running providing we don’t withdraw from the race.